Question: When is it appropriate to make comments to someone about their appearance in public? Comments can sometimes be seen as insulting. Do people forget themselves or do they not realize that what they say can be construed as an insult.
Case in point: A complete stranger walks up to you and says," you look tired. Your eyes are all bloodshot...or do you have allergies?" Do you take offense to this comment and view it negatively? Or do you perceive it as someone making an observation and respond politely? If someone you knew made this comment to you, would your perception be that they are concerned and truly want to know?
What compels a person to make comments about someone's personal appearance in front of others? In my opinion, if something I'm going to say may be taken in the wrong context and I could end up embarrassing the other party, I won't say it. I won't make observations to them like, "you're really breaking out," or "you've gained weight, are you stressed out?". To me, those types of comments are hurtful and unnecessary. I think it would only draw unwanted attention to said person's insecurities.
I've been on the receiving end of comments such as these in the past and, to me, they are NEVER appropriate.
Me and mini-me
Jenn and Tiana
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I have found that the best response is to pull out your .45 and shoot them......j/k. If someone tells you that you're fat, respond like this: "yeah, and you're ugly. I can lose weight but you'll always be ugly." Seriously, consider the source of the comment and the intent behind it. There is a big difference between a comment made by a family member who is concerned for your health and safety and a stranger's. Your response should be made accordingly. Love Dad
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