Online Dating....Part 2

I mentioned in my last post that I joined an online dating site. What I didn't mention is why. My reasons actually mirror a lot of the people on these sites. I'm so busy with work, I don't really go out that much,and I'm tired of the club/bar scene.

You don't meet anyone there but guys looking for a non-committal hook-up. I've always avoided guys like that, have always made sure that I brought a "cock-blocker" with me...just to keep them away. (Sorry Dad!)



I was in an on/off relationship for 10+ years with someone whom I was not really compatible with. Our values/beliefs may have been similar in the beginning, but I think somewhere along the way our views about life and each other changed. I felt disrespected and disregarded by him most of the time. I'm sure he may have felt the same way. I would secretly refer to him as being as "emotional as a robot."

I was miserable with him, and miserable without him. Communication became stilted, with him becoming more condescending and I becoming more withdrawn. Instead of wallowing in self-pity, I decided to take the bull by the horns and do something about my single status. I am not looking for a husband, but if it works out that way..then yay me! I just want to meet people that I might not meet in my own little corner of the world on a regular day.

I have already been introduced to a sheriff's deputy, a teacher, and a lawyer! I have a date this coming Friday with a biostatistician...not quite sure what that is, but I'll let you know when I know!

Adventures in Online Dating

I've taken the plunge and joined an online dating site. I was very apprehensive about it initially, but after much thought, and several glasses of wine, I said "to hell with it" and signed up. I won't mention which site it was, but it is reputable and well-known. That should narrow down the choices!


As soon as I finished creating my profile (very long and tedious, I was stressed out the whole time!) I received six matches. I was actually pretty excited about it! I now have 46 matches (holy crap!) and am openly communicating with 3 of them now. Openly communicating means that I can email them and vice versa on the site without ever having to give up my email address. It's actually fun!



I went out on my first date on Sunday night. It was a spur-of-the-moment thing, with him calling me up a couple of hours before we met.
I met him at a restaurant near my house, public place, nice and open, plenty of opportunity to kick him in the balls and run in case he turned out to be a psycho killer. (My daddy didn't raise no fool!) He didn't seem as tall as he looked in his picture, and he talked about himself and his job A LOT! I was reminded of all of those bad date scenarios in movies. He is a nice guy, just likes to toot his own horn a lot. He used to be in the Navy, now works in Customs. I don't want to divulge too much about him out of respect (plus he carries a gun as part of his job!) .


I'm on the fence about whether or not I should go out with him again. I guess I should really make a decision because he wants to meet again on Friday at his buddy's bar.
There is another guy who wants to meet, but I haven't officially made plans with him yet. He seems like a nice guy. He may even be interested in getting to know me more than he wants to talk about his job. Maybe he'll even let me get in a story or two. Haha!





This online dating thing is actually fun. I could go on first dates for the rest of my life and not have to commit to anyone! Think of the possibilities! :)

M.I.A. no longer

Hello blog! I'm back!! I've missed you! I have been living in my empty apartment for almost a month now and I LOVE IT!! I have my own space, my own little corner of the world to retreat to and just decompress. It's amazing how nice and quiet it is here. Everyone is friendly and says "hi" to each other. Unreal!

So, little blog, let me tell you about my transition from houseful of crazies to utopian bliss. On the day I moved, my nephew bailed. So Tiana and I, (she was...ahem...sick that day), moved all of our boxes in by ourselves.


Later that evening, Howard and Regina helped me move in the furniture in. Howard was kind enough to give me his couch, coffee table, and tv stand. Madalene gave me here old TV. I managed to hang my two large picture frames up on the wall by myself this past weekend (note to self: must go to Home Depot and get some stuff to patch holes).

I still have to purchase a bed and dining room table and chairs, but I'll wait for my bonus in November to get those. I have been cooking...dundunduuun! Not very well, but Tiana is usually starving and will eat anything by that point! We realized the second day that we were there, that the apartment doesn't come with a microwave. We had to boil water in my Wok (IKEA, $8.99) for cup-o-noodles. It was the best damn meal we ever had! (note to self: must buy kettle)




So far, I have been keeping up with the cleaning pretty well. I can't stand to leave dishes unwashed in the sink and I'm constantly picking up after Tiana. I need to buy a vacuum though...it's almost impossible to sweep this rug! Too plush! :)


All in all, I'd say moving was the best thing that I ever did. I don't know why I was so afraid to do it. Now I am fearless! I have so many things that I want to do!!! I have to make a list!! Stay tuned for my next blog: Adventures in on-line dating!!